Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Schedule, Shmedule

I know you go through this too, right? You're a stay at home mom, or person, or whatever. You have the entire day before you. And then the entire day is gone. People ask you what you did last week, or yesterday, or today even, and you reply, "Uuummm... I'm not sure!" You know you were busy, you know you did stuff, but its all so jumbled. You feel like you have this gigantic stretch of time in which you must keep your kids occupied. But then at the end of the day, there are so many things you weren't able to accomplish and it seems like you hardly have any time at all. You feel like you didn't really do right by any of your responsibilities, not even one. Because, although you played with your kids, it wasn't long enough, or focused enough, or you
weren't able to go outside. Although you did five loads of laundry, you weren't able to fold them and now they are covering your entire floor mixed right in with the dirty ones. Even though you cleaned up like five million times, no one would ever be able to tell, especially your husband who is about to walk through the door and probably wants to relax. And so then, even your time with your husband gets gypped because now you have to enlist him in your army of mop-pushers and nose wipers and when you're finally finished, you're too exhausted to do anything so you either flop down somewhere and veg out, or else you flop down and cry, or flop down and knock out. Leaving you feeling completely frustrated and insufficient and incapable and irresponsible. I know I'm not the only one who feels like this right? And it doesn't even have to just be those with kids. It could be any job.

Well, I've really been praying for direction and for the ability to manage my time better--to be a good steward with what I've been entrusted with and make sure I'm giving the proper care and attention to each of my responsiblities. The first responsiblity being my relationship with the Lord.

After one of those nights where I just flopped down and cried and felt utterly dismayed, my techie husband got out his software spreadsheet mumbo jumbo stuff and made me a schedule. Oh, how grateful I am for it! Just something that is solid and concrete that shows me, "Here, look. There are blocks of time here to take care of each thing you need to do." This has helped
me enormously, even when I'm not exactly following it verbatim. I use it as a guide and a test, if you will, to make sure I'm giving place to each of my responsiblities.

I thought I would list it here, just in case there are other people out there who ever feel the way I do. Here's to hoping that maybe it gives you some hope or direction, too. Good luck and know that I'm right there with you, friend!

"Now may the God of peace Himself
sanctify you completely;
and may your whole spirit, soul,
and body be preserved blameless
at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.
He who calls you [is] faithful, who also will do [it]."
I Thessalonians 5:23,24

crynfiction's daily schedule:

7:00 AM - Mom wakes up
7:30 AM - Mom Breakfast and Bible
8:15 AM - Mom gets ready for the day
9:00 AM - Kids Wake up
9:15 AM - Kids Breakfast
9:30 AM - Kids help Mom clean up
9:45 AM - Kids get ready for the day.
10:00 AM - Kids devotions led by Mom
10:20 AM - Activity / Outing with Mom
11:00 AM - Kids Clean up Activity
11:10 AM - Snack
11:20 AM - Activity without Mom
11:45 AM - Mom makes lunch
12:00 PM - Lunch
12:20 PM - Kids help Mom clean up
12:30 PM - Read 2 books with Mom
1:00 PM - Caiden goes down for a nap
1:10 PM - Elliott Activity without Mom
1:10 PM - Mom Activity
2:00 PM - Mom checks on Elliott
2:30 PM - Mom and Elliott do "School"
3:15 PM - Activity without Mom
3:15 PM - Mom preps dinner
3:45 PM - Caiden wakes up
3:50 PM - Snack
4:00 PM - Activity without Mom
4:00 PM - Mom starts dinner
4:40 PM - Kids clean up Activity
4:50 PM - Elliott sets the table
5:00 PM - Dinner
5:35 PM - Kids help Dad clean up.
6:00 PM - Activity / Outing
7:30 PM - Baths
7:50 PM - Out of the Bath
8:00 PM - Brushing Teeth and Vitamins
8:15 PM - Read 2 short books
8:30 PM - Lights Out.
8:31 PM - Mom and Dad snuggle.


kyle d cole said...

this is so cute, you guys!

allisonescalante said...

I know insufficient...
specially as of late, but God reminds me He is the GLORY in my midst...(Zechariah 2:5) and that makes all the difference... it may be a different insufficient yet it is an insufficient none the less. praying for you love!

Hannah Hosh said...

Sounds like exactly what I'm dealing with! I might steal your schedule. :)

Buczarski & Hutch said...

i especially adore the minute after "lights out"... and i might actually steal this schedule but only for my insane life of being a single person. how is that possible, you ask? im STILL figuring it out.

Nina49a said...

9:00!!! Are you kidding me?!
This WAS an encouraging post, but now I'm dealing with jealousy.

Anonymous said...

I praying for you! Lists, schedules are great. Please see the joy and blessing of the "TIME" that God gives us. Psalm 90:12
Thanks for the post!

Lindsey said...

Yah, wow girl! 9am! geez, my kids wake up w/ the sun...lol! So not fun...

Lindsey said...

This is good tho, it's good sometimes to write down everything we do in a day to realize how much we really did do. What about deep cleaning and stuff? when do you do that?

Corynne Escalante said...

Lindsey: Weeelllll... this schedule is sort of new. but sometimes i sneak the bathroom cleaning in when the kids are taking a bath. the idea is to clean as we go along that way the deep cleaning can be done on an as needed basis without having to first clean up everything. so the mopping could be done during one of the "kids do activity without mom" slots. or after they go to bed. vacuuming could be done while the kids help me clean up. sweeping is done while they help clean up after meals. laundry can be done in the "activity without mom" slot or sometimes i enlist their help.

also, the kids room gets thrashed, so we use one of our "activity/outing with mom" slots for that.

its definitely not a perfect system or anything..., but it helps me be more organized.

Lindsey said...

Nice. I am very challenged! I am the worst procrastinator/ go w/ the flow girl! Having kids is sure a stretch for me in that area. But I agree, I desire to use my time wisely... so that I can serve Jesus and my family and friends better..! or at least that's my goal, that God would be glorified in all my failures and character flaws etc.. ha! HE is so gracious.

Corynne Escalante said...

lindsey: i am too! i totally hear what you are saying...